Posted by: cboulay | February 17, 2009

learning to love you more

Please post your “Learning to Love You More” responses to the assignments as your own posts on the blog. If you have any technical questions about doing this, first refer to the support page, and then email me and I will help you.

Be sure to include your name so we know whose post is whose, and if you want to comment on your classmates’ posts, I encourage you to do so. You do not need to post the 1-page essay here, just post the assignments, whether written or visual. Please print out the 1-page essay to turn in to me after spring break.


  1. #70: Say Goodbye

    -Goodbye childhood
    -Goodbye 5547 E. Sanna Street
    -Goodbye grampy
    -Goodbye Chaparral pom
    -Goodbye mitch
    -Goodbye dance
    -Goodbye uncle wiggly
    -Goodbye dicus
    -Goodbye ashley
    -Goodbye david
    -Goodbye doubletree

    #27: Take a picture of the sun

    #53: Give advice to yourself in the past!

    As a rule of thumb I have always tried to live my life with no regrets and so far I have succeeded! Sure I have made mistakes but from each experience I have grown. If I were able to give advice to a younger me, I would probably say to not take life to seriously. It goes by much faster than you will ever thinking and looking back on the times where I was angry, or sad, or frustrated they weren’t worth it. I would warn myself about certain people to stay away from but then again from each of those people I have learned something new so in truth they played a big part of my life. I would tell myself to call my grandparents more often and to play fetch with my puppies everyday for I believe dogs are the perfect example of how humans should be living our lives. Just watching their enthusiasm about the littlest things makes me realize its the little things in life that truly matter. I would want to spend more time with my mom in serenity and a lot more time listening to my dads profound thoughts!

  2. Advice to Jen DeMoss at age 19:

    Dear 19-year-old self: I just wanted to let you know that at the age you are in present time, life is excellent. You live in an interesting house with people you can trust; there is a fireplace, a sauna, chickens, and canoes; you eat fresh eggs almost daily; you are not sad; you are going to graduate from college soon; the activities you pursue are worthwhile and interesting to you; you really have a great life. You are a little pretentious and use too many big words. Just saying.
    I’m you this because I know how you were, you slobbering wreck. You had just started college in your hometown. You were not ready to take on the world and you made a lot of deleterious decisions. That’s why I’m here to help you do a little less damage to your mind and body.

    1. Do not sleep with Rudy. Do not even go over to his house. You will find out later that he’s gay and bipolar.
    2. You should stop smoking now while there’s still time. Now NowNow Now.
    3. You don’t have to play clarinet for the rest of your life. It’s ok if you switch your major.
    4. You will regret getting a tattoo. You will regret two doubly.
    5. Maybe if you don’t use as many big words now I will sound like less of a prick as I age.
    6. Men do not matter. Just go outside and do stuff that you care about. Men are not a big deal. They’re not worth sacrificing your precious time.
    7. Tell your roommate Kerry that her boyfriend is creepy.
    8. Go outside more often. You’re eventually going to get a job outside so you may as well get used to it. Go to Red River Gorge and Mammoth Cave and Pilot Rock immediately.
    9. Stay in touch with Valerie, that girl down the hall from you. She’s a keeper.
    10. You need to find someone to help you relax…an acupuncturist, a massage therapist, someone.
    11. Don’t go out with John. I know he has long hair and tattoos. You will meet him soon. He is crazy. If you do go out with him and move to Michigan you should just use him for housing while you get money together to go to school again. Seriously.
    12. You are going to freak out and drop out of school this year. It is probably inevitable so don’t sweat it. When/if you do and you want to go to an alternative school, do it. You should become an herbologist or a massage therapist or study acupressure while you’re waiting to figure out your life.
    13. Call your mom more often, you’re driving her crazy.
    14. Call your dad more often, he won’t be here forever. Ask him stories about his life and record them.
    15. Start a martial arts program now while you’re still flexible.

    You are going to be fine.

  3. Assignment #53
    Advice to Monica Vaks:
    1. Advice to Monica at age 12: Don’t be negative; going through your parent’s separation is a rough situation. It won’t break apart your family unless you allow it to. Stay in contact and make sure you put your family before anything else. Its okay to talk to your family or your parents about how you feel and what’s going on, they understand and will always be there for you at all times. A lot of marriages don’t end up working out and its okay, everything happens for a reason. And even though we might not know that reason right now, in the future you will.
    2. Advice to Monica at age 13: As you are standing up on that podium about to give your bat mitzvah speech we just want you to know that everyone here loves you, so don’t be shy or nervous, you could do it. It is so important that you stay focus and understand what’s happening to you today. This is the day that you are leaving your childhood behind and finally becoming a woman. This is such a special moment in your life, embrace, enjoy, and try to remember every moment of it because it only happens once.
    3. Advice to Monica at age 15: Your learning how to drive, this is an awesome experience. Take it seriously and listen because the last thing you want is to get in an accident when you’re driving alone in your new car.
    4. Advice to Monica at 15: take 9th grade and high school seriously; it will only benefit you in the future when you’re thinking about where to go to college. It can’t hurt you to pick up a book and read something; you could learn something you don’t know.
    5.Advice to Monica at age 16: You got your license and six months later you get in an accident, if you wouldn’t have been on your cell phone texting people, this probably would have never happened. It is important to stay focused while driving nothing is that important that your phone must be answered right away. You should always wait until you’re at a stop sign or a red light or parked to text message or answer a phone call to prevent accidents in the future.
    6.Advice to Monica at age 17: Michigan or Wisconsin that’s a hell of a choice to make. You’ll make the right decision! We just want what’s best for you both, academically and socially.
    7.Advice to Monica at age 17: The college experience is a rough decision, one must realize that it is a new life, a new chapter where one can be anyone they choose to be because nothing is based on prejudgment. Allow yourself to be the best you could be at such a big school. You shouldn’t strive for anything less because you are a great person and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
    8.Advice to Monica at age 18: Life is everything you make it to be, be positive and try new things. Make the life you want to live. Take all the opportunities that you are confronted with and be your outgoing self. Your still young and don’t forget you have the capabilities to do pretty much anything you want. Go for it and go skydiving and go jump of that bridge. Be adventurous!

  4. Assignment #70. Goodbye
    Monica Vaks:

    Goodbye eating unhealthy
    Goodbye late night
    Goodbye snacks
    Goodbye carbohydrates
    Goodbye salt
    Goodbye fattening foods
    Goodbye soda
    Goodbye size LARGE
    Goodbye pimples
    Goodbye feeling ugly and fat
    Goodbye guilt
    Goodbye him
    Goodbye regret
    Goodbye always being on the phone
    Goodbye facebook
    Goodbye being lazy
    Goodbye negativity
    Goodbye her
    Goodbye eating for no reason
    Goodbye old life, Hello new life!

  5. Assignment #27
    Take a Picture of the Sun:


  6. Assignment #53:
    Advice to Jessica at age 2: Maybe you should be more careful attempting to climb down the one stair into the living room, that way, next time, you won’t fall down and send your front tooth through your lip.

    Advice to Jessica at age 3: Don’t worry, just because you are going to have a little brother, doesn’t mean that we aren’t going to love you just as much as we do now. You have to be accepting and love your brother too! You will grow to appreciate him, although you might not in the beginning.

    Advice to Jessica at age 8: Keep smiling! It’s what all your teachers write on your report cards, so just keep on being a happy kid.

    Advice to Jessica at age 13: Don’t be nervous about messing up at your Bat Mitzvah, you have a beautiful voice and no one is going to judge you even if you stumble on a word or two. And, remember to appreciate your party, and thank your parents for helping you have such a fun day!

    Advice to Jessica at age 15: Try not to get so annoyed with your brother, believe me, the time will come when you appreciate him and will like having a little brother. He annoys you a lot, but just be more patient and don’t violently respond to his annoying acts.

    Advice to Jessica at age 17: When making one of the most important decisions of your life, where to go to college, make sure you go with your gut. You went to visit Michigan when it was pouring rain and you still fell in love with it, isn’t that a sign? Go with your gut. Oh, and try not to criticize yourself so harshly. Be comfortable with who you are and don’t be so affected by how others are judging you. No one else’s opinion matters but yourselves, even though that may be the most destructive opinion of all.

    Advice to Jessica at age 18: Boys are stupid. Don’t let them get you down. Take all of the opportunities life presents you and live your life to its fullest extent!

  7. # 53: give advice to yourself in the past
    Be more confident about your own thoughts.
    Catch every possible chance.
    Face all challenges for improvement more actively.
    Carry out the actions when you are really motivated and enthusiastic.
    Think one minute more before saying things out to avoid unconscious hurt to others.
    Remember the birthday date of every person you love and give them a surprise on that day.
    Keep in touch with friends made since in childhood.
    Communicate with parents more often and express my love more generously.
    Try more outside activities with people you do not know before.
    Leave some time for personal writing every month.

  8. #53: Give advice to yourself in the past

    Take a deep breath. Stop stressing out about miniscule details and focus on the larger picture. Not everything needs to be perfect, accept this sooner and your life will get better quicker.
    Live in the moment more. Yes, the future is important, but you will get into college and be just fine. Life goes by so much quicker than you imagine, cherish each moment and stop wishing to push the clock forward.
    Have fun and put yourself out there more. Be brave; confidence is priceless. Remember, you don’t need to be loved by everyone.
    Share your opinions, don’t just follow the lead of others.
    Lastly, don’t go looking for love, it can’t be found that way.

    Wow, my advice to my past self seems very cliche. Seriously, I think I used every line a guidance counselor tells students, but these are the things that I should have realized earlier.

  9. #70: Say Goodbye

    Goodbye insecurity.
    Goodbye obsessive thoughts.
    Goodbye phobias.
    Goodbye nail biting.
    Goodbye OCD.
    Goodbye bitterness.
    Goodbye longing.
    Goodbye laziness.
    Goodbye watching on the sidelines.
    Goodbye waiting for my turn.

  10. #32: Draw a scene from a movie that made you cry.

    Mufasa dies in “The Lion King”

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